To desire only the highest good for another is to love unconditionally. The other vital element is not to decide that we know what is good for the other or what they may need, that is God's job, not ours. God can bless us with intuition and discernment to help others and this blesses our loved ones. Pray in all matters, always, and then we can act as vessels to help and guide our beloved.
― Thomas Merton