There is a season for everything in our lives. We will have all different types of relationships from professional to personal, and each of them shall have there own season. A well adjusted mature Healthy mind accepts when a relationship may come to an end and can gently release the person without any strife. However the addict mind suffers from a whole other dis-ease, and one in which is based in self centered fear. This is one in which the person holds in there mind a constant obsession of the person leaving the relationship and keeps them as a hostage (a prisoner within the mind). The addicted one may feel the uncontrollable desire to keep contacting that person, or even worse get addicted to social media in order to see what the other person is doing. Social media can be a feeding frenzy for the ego. This becomes a Spiritual violation of boundaries to the other person who has moved on from the relationship. The ego dynamics of addiction, is the person always thinks everything is about them and looses sight of the other people they are affecting. We can see this ego dynamic occur all around us, and it is indeed the same addicted process as being addicted to alcohol, or drugs, of another insane substitute. The Good News is there is a solution and a way out of this awful prison. The first step is the admission that there is a problem, without the honesty of seeing there is something wrong healing will be impossible. There are many paths one can use to heal from addictions, however the only one I have known to actually work is a 12 step process (it is flawless) . I share this information today because many may suffer from addictions (obsessive compulsive disorders) of many kinds. There can be total and complete relief, if there is total and complete honesty and taking responsibility for the dis-ease. We can be free from the bondage of self. God Wills us to have a happy healthy mind, so we can be of greater service.
The Twelve Steps
1. We admitted we were powerless over "name the addiction" - that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Choose freedom
Love with passion
Nanette
www.nanettevictoria.com
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